The biggest lessons I learnt from Season 3 of the By Kayleigh mentorship
Last week we got wrapped on the mentorship, season 3 edition. This season was a big one, with 11 lovely girls and 2 additional flexible coaching sessions at the same time, yep - 13 girls! It’s definitely the season where I learnt the most, from how to teach, how to educate, where I need the most work but also how to better my programme for this new world. So let’s dive into what I learnt and how this mentorship is evolving as a result!
Lesson 1 - Learning about learning.
Previously with Season 1 & 2 - we were 2 small intimate groups compromising of 6 and 5 mentees in the programme. We were small, cute and super close with each other. When you double that, things definitely are different, mainly - how everyone learns is different. I discovered that its not a one size fits all kind of situation, and as a result had to adapt my teaching style to everyone uniquely. Obviously this is something I did before, but I also found with smaller groups, everyone was very similar in the way they learnt and their pain points. This season we had visual learners, audial learners, we had people who loved the calls and people who didn’t enjoy them so much, but loved the self coaching aspect. I learnt a lot about how my course fits into unique learning styles and made the decision to get my own mentor, an educator herself for a decade, to help me BECOME a better educator and how the course can be improved for all learning styles. I want to inject more variety, something MORE than calls.
Lesson 2 - I learnt about my limits
Possibly my biggest learn this season, was about myself and my own personal capacity for teaching. I took a back seat from makeup, taking on very limited bookings, to become a full time educator. 12 weeks with 13 girls taught me, I need to look after myself better. I let a lot slip in my own life, because I gave so much energy to others. When i’m a mentor, I really am a mentor. I spend hours on calls a day, hours listening to voice notes and responding to questions, writing up plans of action and checking in. It’s a huge privilege, a huge responsibility, but also incredibly taxing on my own energy. I learnt a lot about boundaries (having previously, needing no need for them, because of the smaller groups!) which I implemented in week 2 or 3. But my biggest learn was I over-subscribed myself. I still gave my all to others, but as Jacquelyn said on our last call together “I looked tired” and as a result, I put me second, something I need to manage better for Season 4.
Lesson 3 - The format
During my own mentor calls with Vix - I have learnt a lot about engagement. Season 1 and 2 were super engaged, because 2020 and 2021 were major years in our history where humans didn’t have a lot of human interaction. We had time to spend self developing, we had time to spend responding and creating community. Typically 2022, course creators and educators are finding people are BUSY. And we are burnt out, emotionally, physically and mentally. The world is now back with a bang, and so are our busy lives. I learnt a lot about the format of my mentorship and how perhaps where the world has changed, back to a busier more energetic place - how I can change the mentorship format to be more flexible and adapt to this new change. Business is about being adaptable and whilst I have energy (my job is literally a full time coach right now), others may not have this luxury. Going forward, I have learnt the mentorship needs to be more flexible.
Lesson 4 - It’s not about hard wins
Season 1 and 2 had some crazy wins (you saw them!) and I genuinely am so proud of those. But Season 3, the wins were different. They were more emotional, more mindset based. I heard wins like “I feel more clarity in my business” and “I have a plan now”. I also heard wins like, “I’m finally a boss” and “This really feels like anything is possible”. The wins this season were deep rooted. This season did some hard mindset work and I feel so privileged to have had a part in that. Some might say, these wins are not as great as the 30bookings in one week, or the highest income year ever, but the mindset work is HARDER. Trust me. With a winning mindset you can go on to scale your business quadruple those physical wins. It was an interesting juxtaposition as I was teaching the same things, but it goes to show - that the world has changed and how people learn, or WANT to learn has also changed.
Lesson 5 - Evolving
I always teach my students to be adaptable. We need to be, to stay alive in business. I’m going into the next season of my life resting and looking at a slower pace of growing, as you have probably seen By Kayleigh has been 100mph for a year or so now. I’m spending my next few months slowly building our next exciting adventure (the level up club!) but also, refining the mentorship for Season 4. It’s going to look different, vastly different actually - but we are adapting. I am taking everything I have learnt from Season 3 and changing it up for Season 4. So I bid my wonderful By Kayleigh mentorship farewell (for now).